Wedding Planning Questions Answered….

You Asked – We Answered!

Last week, in my (quasi-)weekly newsletter, I asked you what some of your big questions were regarding the planning of your wedding.  And it didn’t need to be floral or decor related, because as a WPIC- Certified Wedding Planner, and executor of hundreds of weddings, I can answer a multitude of questions. And a multitude of questions I received!  Thank you to all who took time to ask questions and share their planning dilemmas.  I have chosen some that I think may be fairly universal to couples in the planning stages.  Read on, and if I don’t cover your concern, just let me know what it is by adding in to the comments below.

Who gets Corsages or Boutonnieres?

This is one of those areas that, if you have a large family, can really become endless!  In some cultures, i.e. Italians, it is customary to present all parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and God-parents with corsages for the ladies and boutonnieres for the men.  This is a sign of respect and acknowledgement of these people as part of your family.  However, as time and tradition marches on, a lot of couples are cutting down on the number of family who receive these.  Often, now, it is the parents and grandparents of the bride and groom.

Orchid corsages

Orchid Corsages

Sometimes, there will be a special person who contributed to your life or wedding that you want to acknowledge publicly with flowers.  These people can be gifted a corsage/boutonniere.

If you have people doing readings at the ceremony, or have an officiant who is wearing a suit/dress, these people can also be given flowers.  As well, if the MC is not a part of the wedding party, consider giving one to them as well to indicate the special role they are playing in your day.

With so many parents divorced and remarried or in a longer-term relationship, it might become a bit confusing about who should be honoured.  This sometimes requires kid-gloves, but remember this is a celebration that will be marked in photos and memories for a very long time.  As such, consider the role the new partner has played in your life and/or your parents’ life.  If it significant and you want that noted, give them a corsage/boutonniere.  If they are possibly just passing through your life, or a date/escort to your parent, it is not a necessity to acknowledge their position.

Receiving Line

And still keeping in the theme of family and who is included, how do you do a receiving line??  So many couples say “My mom and dad WILL NOT stand in line together”, and if that’s the case, that’s unfortunate.  But, this doesn’t have to spoil your day.  While the tradition dictates that those hosting the reception (usually considered to be the brides’ parents and the bride and groom) stand to greet their guests, an excellent compromise is to have simply the Bride and Groom welcome and greet the guests.  This leaves the bridal party and parents free to mingle and chat and help facilitate the flow of guests coming in.  Also, it cuts down greatly on the time spent in line!

Kids at the Reception


Young love...

Young love…


Now here is a prickly subject!  Often this issue is skirted because no one wants to offend each other.  The bride and groom may prefer not to have kids there, but don’t want to come out and say it.  The happy families with young children often would like their kids to be party of the celebration and party afterwards.  If the invitation is addressed to Mr. and Mrs. Smith and Family, then you know the kids are welcome.  If, however, it is addressed to Mr & Mrs Only, it should be clear they are the ones invited.  However, etiquette is the art of making people feel welcome and comfortable, so as a good host, it is always your responsibility to be on top of these situations.  Consider following up the invitation with a call explaining that while you love your nieces or nephews, this will be more of an adult reception that wouldn’t be appropriate for the younger ones, and that you hope they understand.

I’m Having a DJ, Do I Need an MC?

Some things to consider:  does the DJ know you as a couple?  will they have funny stories to share that are relevant to your friends and family?  My thinking is that an MC who is a part of the family, or extended family, is a good choice because of the familiarity.  However, if you don’t have someone who is comfortable, witty, and quick on the draw, you might be better to go with the DJ.  You don’t want this to be a painful, long, drawn out affair.  Nothing kills a party quicker than that!

These are just a few answers to the numerous questions that were sent in.  Since I received so many, I think I’ll split this post up into 2 weeks.  So check back next week for more questions such as “Who should I tip?”, “Wedding on Holiday Weekends“, “How much time will it take?”.

In the meantime, if you have any questions or comments, be sure to let me know by using the comment section below.  Thanks for reading and have a great week!


~ by OPULENCE Floral Design & Event Decor on February 5, 2012.

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